Sexy and I Know It

I’ll bet that caught your eye.

It certainly caught my attention when yesterday, my 8-year-old son told me that he thought I was sexy.

Me: “What did you say?”

Him: “You’re sexy, Mom.”

Me: “Um, that’s not OK. Don’t call me that.”

Him: “But you are.”

“You don’t know what that means.”

“Yes I do.”

“OK, what does ‘sexy’ mean?”

“It means beautiful and incredible.”

“Awww. Thank you Sweetie. But that’s not all that ‘sexy’ means.”


“No. Sexy is a grown-up word. If you want to tell someone they’re beautiful and incredible, then use those words instead.”

“Then what does ‘sexy’ mean?”

“I can’t explain it to you. It’s something you can’t understand until you’re older.”

“But why?”

“You just can’t. So… You may not use the word ‘sexy’ until you’re 16. You’ll understand by then.”

“Oh. OK.”

An interesting conversation. How would you have handled it?

And speaking of sexy:

4 thoughts on “Sexy and I Know It

  1. Having read “What’s Happening to My Body? Book for Boys” to my son when he was 7 or 8, and watched a couple seasons of Glee with the pause button so we could talk about why the characters acted the way they did with teenager hormones raging, I can easily explain that “sexy” is what you say to someone you’re thinking about having sex with, and if they don’t have a similar interest in you, they will be offended.
    And since he’s 9 and just getting into that combination of modesty and titillation about the idea of kissing, he’d go “eeewwwwww!” and never do it again until he really did mean to call someone “sexy”. And then we’ll have to talk again respectful conversations.

  2. I’ve found it very helpful to read the books with both of my kids. It gets all the words out in the open, with good explanations of what they mean, and it’s a look at how life will change.
    I’ve read the girl’s version a 2nd time with my daughter recently, after she’s started puberty, and it was a good review. Since the topics were familiar she didn’t have as much as the modesty/embarrassment reaction, and it was much easier to talk about everything than it could have been.
    As they’ve been exposed to more videos, songs, jokes from school and online, it makes it easy to talk about what those things really mean, and think about how people are treating each other in the media.

  3. Hi There I’m a fellow NaBloPoMo’er this month and thought I’d stop by to share some Comment Love 🙂

    I loved this post – it reminded me of the other day when my 5 year old son came in my closet as I was changing and stuck his face in my naked buns and shook his head back and forth to make them jiggle on his face. I realized right then and there that men don’t learn this behavior – it’s INGRAINED in their DNA!

    Cheers! -Kim

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