The Perfect Date

National Blog Posting Month – February 2013 – Love

Prompt – Describe your ideal date night.

My husband has been asking me to do this for years. What do I consider a perfect date night?

A good, not-rushed meal. Almost every restaurant speeds you in and speeds you out again, dumping your food in front of you faster than you can eat and enjoy it. Seriously, what’s the point of an appetizer if you’ve hardly eaten any of it when the main course appears? Why can’t you wait until after I’ve actually eaten the salad before bringing me the entree?

Conversation. Especially conversation without cell-phone preoccupation. Yes, I’m guilty of it too: checking my phone, Facebook, Twitter, e-mails. That stuff needs to be put in silent mode and hidden. And, no, I don’t want to talk about what’s right or wrong about our relationship. I want to talk about cat videos, major events, and work. Mundane conversation is fine, as long as it’s two-way and mutually interesting.

An activity. This is especially important if dinner was the typical rushed meal that one gets at restaurants. Honestly, I don’t really think of seeing a movie as a good date activity, because you’re not interacting really with the person you came with. I mean, if you are interacting with your date during a movie, maybe you’ve wasted your money. You may as well go and watech TV together. You don’t even need to dress up to go to a movie. No challenge there. No, I want something interactive. Bowling would be better than a movie (unless you really hate bowling – and I’m not a big fan), because you’re doing something and it’s kind of expected that you’ll talk to each other. Going to a play is fine – you actually have to dress up, which involves some effort. Even a car show is fine, provided you don’t ignore your date. No one wants to be the fifth wheel.

Seems simple enough, but it’s hard to accomplish. All meals are rushed these days. Life is full of distractions, so it can be hard to have just an ordinary, mundane, ‘how is the weather?’ kind of conversation. It’s all-too-easy to ignore your partner when on a date (especially if you’ve been together for a while), which makes finding an activity difficult.

Not to mention the fact that there’s always a good reason NOT to go out in the first place. We’re too busy! It costs too much! What will we do with the boy?

But when I reflect back on the best dates I’ve ever been on, these three things seem to be most important. Maybe there’s something to that.

For 2-7-2013

1 thought on “The Perfect Date

  1. The best date I ever had was when I met my (now) fiancee in person for the first time. We met online on a forum, then graduated to email and phone calls over the space of a month. After about five months of that (during which we tried very hard to not fall in love, and failed) we arranged to meet in person in Niagara Falls because it’s halfway between our homes. I met her on my motorcycle at the train station on the Ontario side. She had packed a lunch, so we rode up to Niagara-on-the-Lake and had a picnic in a park along the river. It was a beautiful spring day, lots of people in the park and boats on the river to watch, and yet all we could see was each other.

    We do see movies now and then, and go out to eat, but we spend most of our time together doing quiet things when we can talk. Or not. Sometimes the best thing to say is nothing but a smile or a squeeze of the hand. With the right person, they already know what you would have said.

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